A lot of people do not know what reactive abuse is. But narcissist will often use it and count on it with their victims. I found an article that explains it better than I ever could so I am going to just attach it. Here is the article: https://breakthesilencedv.org/reactive-abuse-what-it-is-and-why-abusers-rely-on-it/
Me, age 38 Me, age 2-3 As far back as I can remember, I’ve always been fat/chubby/big. There has never been a time in my life where I have been small or thin. I was teased and called “fat pig” almost all my childhood. I was always the fat kid in class. I HATED P.E.…… Continue reading Why I went into the fitness industry… a fat girls story about going into a fatphobic industry
Believe people when they tell you they’ve been abused. Parents, if your child tells you they’ve been abused, believe them and then fucking do something about it. Don’t the pretend like nothing happened!
The following is a copy of an article I wrote for an outlet that I no longer contributed to. I wanted to make sure it was saved here. Grief is weird. It is overwhelming and shows up at both the most unexpected and expected times. I recently lost my Grandma. It’s been a lot harder…… Continue reading Grief Has No End Date
I am no Oprah and I’m not sure anyone really cares about what my favorite things are but I’m gonna tell ya anyway! You’re welcome 😉. 1.) My very first favorite thing is a new item I was just gifted last week. It is from my friends at Warmies. They have a bunch of plush…… Continue reading ❄️Shabana’s Favorite Things❄️
I finally decided to post my long awaited cookie recipe. I’ve been meaning to post this for year…. literally 3 years. So, without boring you with some long ass drawn out shpeil about my grandpas recipe being handed down for generations and how much it means to me (none of which is true) I’ll hand…… Continue reading Almond flour Gluten free cookies- low carb, keto, sugar free and soy free
*This is a recount of my trip to California. If it seems like my writing is out of order or a mess it’s because that’s where my head is at right now. Please excuse that. California is many things to me. It is where I and my siblings were born. It is where I called…… Continue reading California, home at last
Hey! Thought you would enjoy Ibotta (if you don’t already). It’s an easy to use, cash back rewards app. I use it every time I shop, and thought you would like it too. Use my referral code, ucvsbrj, and you can start saving real cash at all your favorite retailers. Sign up at https://ibotta.com/r/ucvsbrj That’s…… Continue reading Ibotta shopping app!
If you’ve followed along on my journey in any capacity you know that I struggle with my mental health. Most recently I had been doing relatively good. However, we all have triggers and if we don’t know how to deal with the triggers as they come then shit blows up in your face, again. *FYI…… Continue reading Mental health Care is a Fucking joke!
Baby life is hard. They eat 8-12 times a day in those first few weeks and sometimes more. The first day or so after I had Jonah we were trying hard to nurse at Breast but after cracked and scabbed nipples and a crying baby, I decided to pump for a little bit; until my…… Continue reading The Spectra S1 Breast Pump review- exclusively pumping Mom